A Eulogy for a Best Friend -  I Shall Hear in Heaven

I would like to begin by thanking everyone for coming. Since Tommy passed away the other day, I’ve been taking some time, a lot of time in fact, to try and find the words that express what he meant to me. Indeed, what he meant to all of us. Our personal memories of Tommy will always live in our hearts, but finding those words that say what Tommy meant to all of us can be a little more challenging. While trying to find something appropriate to say, I came across a list of quotations by historically famous people who supposedly said these lines while on their deathbed. Now many of these, I admit, didn’t seem to capture Tommy’s character. Most, in fact, where a little too heavy in tone. And that, you’ll agree, is not how I remember Tommy.

Eventually though, I did come across a quote from Ludwig Von Beethoven. Now, as some of you might not know, Beethoven continued to compose during his latter years despite the fact he became progressively deaf. His determination to do what he loved most was a form of defiance. He refused to acknowledge his impairment as something that hindered him. Anyhow, as time went on, Beethoven’s health deteriorated and by the time he was in his mid-fifties, he lay on his deathbed. And it was at his point during the last few moments of his life that he said: “I shall hear in heaven.” What appeals to me about the line isn’t only its sincerity, but its optimism. Not only was Beethoven sure his spirit would live on, but that he would flourish in heaven. Even better, though, is the fact his influence would gather recognition for generations to come.

Why I tell you a story that on the day we celebrate the life of Tommy is that I’m taken with the spirit of the story, just like I think we are taken with the spirit of Tommy, and what he meant to us. Ever the eternal optimist, I’m sure Tommy faced death with as much anticipation and wonder as he did life. I imagine you’ve likely spent the last couple of days privately mulling over some of the more special moments you had with Tommy. As a tribute to Tommy, I’d ask that following this service, you consider spending some time sharing those stories with others, whether they’re your friend, acquaintances, or even people who you haven’t met.

We’ve lost a special friend this week, but as we all know, it is our responsibility to not just carry on the memory of Tommy, but to emulate those qualities Tommy represented so well. Qualities like dedication, trustworthiness, loyalty, and his willingness to always help a friend. And because his memory will live in our hearts, I think it appropriate that we don’t necessarily say goodbye at this point. Rather, I’d prefer we just say farewell. And thanks for being such a great friend.

Our most sincere condolences go out to the Vitale family today. And I’m sure that I speak on behalf of the entire family when I say they appreciate the wonderful support everybody has provided this week.

With Love, Oscar A. Garcia